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“It’s an almost indescribably scary feeling to be anxious and nearly afraid when your boyfriend says to you “I need to talk to you about something.” Your heart immediately starts to race, you become slightly short of breath and panicky. Eventually I would even immediately begin to experience early signs of a headache when he would say “I need to talk to you” or “something disturbs me, we need to talk.” This is a response that developed over time. I literally would begin to have frequent migraines. When “I need to talk to you about something” goes from being said sporadically, to every month, to every week to damn near every day. You are no longer “walking on eggshells.” You are literally tiptoe standing on them, afraid to move.

THIS BOOK IS NOT JUST ABOUT STORIES, IT PROVIDES PSYCHOEDUCATION AND FEEDBACK ON TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF AND PICKING A HEALTHY LIFE PARTNER.

"Every relationship that we have as adults is predicated on the relationship, we have with ourselves. It’s why it’s so important for children to have what they need from us as parents during their “formative years.” The term formative years is surely debatable in various disciplines of study but I’m here to suggest that we are in our formative years in one stage or another until we reach adulthood. The brain is still forming up through the age of 25. To have a healthy relationship with others, you must first seek to have a healthy relationship with yourself. You do that by ensuring you have a good feeling of self."

THE NARCISSIST

How it starts...the setup

You meet. They are just right. Perfectly flawed. Why? Because you were chosen for the way you think. You see people as perfectly flawed. Ready to forgive and see past a person's imperfections because 1. you know that no one is perfect and 2. you want to have your flaws overlooked. The red flags are pink to you... Read this again THEY CHOSE YOU...

Next…Love Bombing

All the praise a person could ever need. They compliment your intelligence, your looks, your sex appeal. They lift you up in comparison of others.
--You are so pretty, you are so sexy, you so fine

Of course if you have been let down in the past (which you have because that's why you were chosen) then you get things like this

"they were not good enough for you because they are not smart enough to see what I see in you"

They shower you with gifts, trips and money. They may even pray for you and with you.

RIGHT NOW, THE ACTIONS MATCH THE WORDS. THIS IS WHY THE FLAGS ARE STILL PINK.

Next...the change up and the gaslight